The final step in developing patience is to depend on God. Patience is not merely a matter of human willpower; it is the fruit of the Spirit. You cannot just psych yourself up and say, “I’m going to be patient if it kills me.” It will. Patience is not willpower. Patience is not saying, “He doesn’t really irritate me,” when deep inside you are really thinking, I hate that guy. Patience is not wearing a mask and pretending.
If it is God’s patience you feel, if it is the genuine fruit of the Spirit, you will have a genuine inner peace. Certain situations won’t bother you the way they used to. Why? because you are depending on the Lord.
Patience is a form of faith. It says, “I trust God. I believe that God is bigger than this problem. And I believe that God has his hand in these irritations and can use them in my life for good.” Faith helps us look at life from God’s point of view. Faith helps us to say, “God, what do you want me to learn in this situation?” instead of “Why did this happen?” Because of faith we no longer need to ask God, “Why did I get a flat tire while I was on the way to an important appointment?” Instead, we can ask, “What do you want me to learn from this predicament?”
Excerpt from God’s Power to Change Your Life by Rick Warren